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On one hand you just want the fighting, arguing and silent treatment to end. On the other, there's a ray of hope inside you that really believes this marriage can be salvaged.
This "condition" consists of the spouse using vague words and phrases that demonstrate how very unaware they are of their own motives for what they do. These fleeing spouses do not want to look at hard rights and wrongs,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], morality or self analysis. They are NOT open to new ideas, new ways of thinking and they don't like anyone asking them questions!
"Should I stay or should I go?" Is that the burning question on your mind lately? In other words, is it possible to stop your spouse from running away…or is it already too late?
Group 3) The Affair: In this group, the spouse has met their romantic match who fills them with feelings of love and acceptance while their marriage partner of years leaves them feeling empty.
I find that spouses who are running away from their marriage are in three main groups:
So where does that leave you?
Chances are that your spouse is not going to admit their actions are wrong because they're too caught up with what feels good right now. He or she is leaving the marriage and your instinctive actions will drive him or her away even FASTER.
Group 1) The Dreamy: This is a person who seeks romance, adventure and an exciting new life. They believe their spouse is holding them back.
Do you want to get logic and reason out of your spouse? You CAN…but only for an hour or so. After that, it will be some new story, a new mood, a different way to recall the past, or a new interest. Such is the life of people who do not search for the real truth, but instead search for what feels good at the moment. One thing is certain…chasing what "feels good" inevitably ends in a sorry mess.
And that is exactly what you're trying to avoid. But to avoid a sorry mess, your spouse must WAKE UP! He or she must realize what divorce is really going to do to the kids and they must admit their actions are morally wrong.
No matter which group your husband or wife falls into,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as the spouse who wants to make this marriage work, the only thing you can control right now is the environment. By
Right now, you're acting as Nemo's father who was worried and over protective of him. Now pay attention because this is a very important point: being over protective drives confused people away.
I work with many men and women who are faced with a spouse who is running away from the marriage. Some of them ask me to speak to their spouse but I almost always decline. Why? Because it makes very little sense for me to speak them in the condition they're in.
You may have noticed that your spouse seems deeply confused right now. To understand their state of confusion, you must think of your husband or wife as Nemo,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the clown fish in the Disney movie. Bold, daring and confident but swept away because they didn't know the difference between reason and risk.
Group 2) The Angry: This type of spouse seeks revenge and cannot calm down because their spouse ignites even more vengeance which they cannot control for any amount of reason.
Here's what I mean…
You've asked your spouse a thousand times but all you get in return is answers you just don't understand. These "reasons for calling it quits" seem to conflict with earlier answers from earlier arguments and conversations. But that's not important right now.
What you really need to do is "stay the course".
One amazing human phenomena is when you chase someone with urgency, they often run away faster. You may be at a point right now where your husband or wife is determined to leave you and for the life of you, there is no clear answer as to "Why?"
I've written an article on the effects of divorce on children that will help you understand what happens to children of divorce.
With the American divorce rate at 60%, you're not alone in the pain and anguish you're currently going through.